My husband’s willingness to share in church about porn could have surprised me. Yet when he told me God was nudging him, it didn’t. God can do that - call us to risk transparency. I respect Doug for listening and being vulnerable in sharing so publicly.
We are not a statistic. We are a real couple/family affected by porn. Over the years I suspected, but when I asked it was denied. When Doug confessed, a painfully honest discussion took place. This conversation physically shook me. I was at a loss with little control, and I like control. I couldn’t change Doug. I felt isolated. Alone was a dangerous place to be with my thoughts and fears.
Are you waiting for the hopeful? In this journey my identity in Christ Jesus was deepened. I hold on to those roots when things feel unsure. I moved into a deeper heart cry and prayer life. Surrendering this to God was scary, very scary and incredibly freeing. I was not on my own and conversations with others helped. I was humbled by what others trusted to share with me.
If you are a woman experiencing this, know that you are not the only one and you are not to blame. The truth is that someone else’s decisions or addictions are not because you are not attractive enough, young enough, thin enough, whatever enough. Take those insecurities and lies to God and replace them with His truths. Risk a conversation with someone you trust. It takes time and is an ongoing recovery.
God can and does create change, when people submit. II Corinthians 3:16-17 (NIV) “But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.”
Thanks to God for the peace to share. Thanks to Pastor Peter and you, Hope Fellowship, for taking this risk with us. Thanks to all who prayed. Keep praying and create safe places for sharing.
- Sharon
N.B. If you have missed any of the sermons in the Safe Sex or any other sermon series (including Doug’s testimony last Sunday) you can hear them at www.hopefellowhship.ca
We are not a statistic. We are a real couple/family affected by porn. Over the years I suspected, but when I asked it was denied. When Doug confessed, a painfully honest discussion took place. This conversation physically shook me. I was at a loss with little control, and I like control. I couldn’t change Doug. I felt isolated. Alone was a dangerous place to be with my thoughts and fears.
Are you waiting for the hopeful? In this journey my identity in Christ Jesus was deepened. I hold on to those roots when things feel unsure. I moved into a deeper heart cry and prayer life. Surrendering this to God was scary, very scary and incredibly freeing. I was not on my own and conversations with others helped. I was humbled by what others trusted to share with me.
If you are a woman experiencing this, know that you are not the only one and you are not to blame. The truth is that someone else’s decisions or addictions are not because you are not attractive enough, young enough, thin enough, whatever enough. Take those insecurities and lies to God and replace them with His truths. Risk a conversation with someone you trust. It takes time and is an ongoing recovery.
God can and does create change, when people submit. II Corinthians 3:16-17 (NIV) “But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.”
Thanks to God for the peace to share. Thanks to Pastor Peter and you, Hope Fellowship, for taking this risk with us. Thanks to all who prayed. Keep praying and create safe places for sharing.
- Sharon
N.B. If you have missed any of the sermons in the Safe Sex or any other sermon series (including Doug’s testimony last Sunday) you can hear them at www.hopefellowhship.ca
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